It's ironic. I've spent most of my adult life helping people relax, destress and decompress. My clients often come in frantic or tired seeking any sort of relief or rest. One of the most gratifying experiences is watching my clients open their eyes after their facial or massage treatment. The look of sheer bliss always lets me know I got the job done.
Although I practiced the art of helping others relax, (shoot, I make products designed to help people take care of themselves and experience spa vibes at home) I admit...I rarely take that time for Jada. In between creating products, operating my business, being a mom and being a good friend...I'm tired boss! Don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely grateful and I consider myself beyond blessed to have a successful business, amazing friends and the most adorable tiny humans I've ever seen. I'm also burnt out.
My therapist (yes, I go to therapy and I highly recommend it to all because life be life-ing) always tells me I have to take time for myself, but it's so hard sometimes. I know you know what I mean. Moms, HOW do we take a break when there's laundry that needs folding, meals that need to be cooked, homework that has to be checked? Business owners/entrepreneurs, how do we take a step back when we are solely responsible for building our empires and we have customers who rely on us? IMPOSSIBLE, right? No, wrong!
I just had a conversation with someone who's opinion I value. One of the things he always says to me is "Jada, airplane rules. Secure your own mask first." I understood what he meant each time he's told me, but I didn't feel it until yesterday. I literally had one of those breaking moments where I literally cried and said, "I'm exhausted."
As I sit here and write this, I am understanding the importance of securing my own mask. I love being a giver. I love being a doer. I love being there for my family, friends and customers. I, also, have to show up and love being there for me too.
To anyone who is reading this, may you find solace in knowing you are not alone and it is absolutely okay to say, "I need a break." Put your phone on 'do not disturb.' Take that bubble bath. Take that trip. Do what you need to do for you and make no apologies. Make sure you're not building up others while you're breaking down. You cannot pour from any empty cup, so go ahead and secure your own mask first.